Honor Your Boundaries

It's so important that we learn to honor our own boundaries before we try to teach others how to do the same. Why? Because if we can't even manage and respect our own limits, how can we expect anyone else to?

There are many areas in our lives where having strong self-boundaries can be helpful. Here are just a few:

- Finances: We need to be able to say no to unnecessary spending and know our limits.

- Self-care: We need to put ourselves first sometimes and not feel guilty about it. This means saying no to things that would drain us emotionally or physically, and making time for things that nurture us.

- Time management: We need to be able to set limits on our time and stick to them. This means learning to say no to things that would eat up too much of our time and energy, and learning to stick to our own schedule.

- Treatment from others: We need to be able to set boundaries with others and not allow them to treat us in ways that are disrespectful or hurtful. This means learning to say no to people who try to take advantage of us, and being assertive about our needs.

- Thoughts and emotions: We need to be able to control our own thoughts and emotions, and not let them control us. This means learning to deal with our own inner demons and not allowing them to rule our lives.

- Reactions: We need to be able to control our reactions to things, and not let our emotions get the best of us. This means learning to stay calm in the face of stress, and not letting our anger or fear dictate our actions.

- People in our lives: We need to be able to choose who we allow into our lives, and not let just anyone in. This means learning to say no to people who are toxic or negative, and only allow those who make us feel good about ourselves into our lives.

If we want to learn to honor our boundaries, we need to start by resisting the urge to do things that we know are beyond our limits. We need to change our habits, and be more selective about saying yes. We also need to take a good look at our lives and identify areas where we need better self-management.

Ask yourself: How am I doing in this area now, versus how I want to be doing in this area? For example, how am I using my time now versus how I want to be using my time? How well am I practicing self-care? How am I allowing others to treat me?

Once you've identified areas that need improvement, set some goals to change your behavior. Then, implement some action steps to help you reach those goals. Remember, it's not going to be easy. But if you're committed to honoring your boundaries, it's definitely worth it.

If you struggle with honoring the boundaries you set for yourself, let’s chat. I offer a free 45 minute consultation where you can get clear on what’s keeping you stuck and I can share with you how I can best help you. Go to www.momswithoutcapes.com/loveyourself and let’s get you moving towards living a life you love!

Click here to listen to the Moms Without Capes Episode 118: Honor Your Boundaries